Relationship Problems

Sometimes we may feel that relationship problems only happen to us, when in fact they can happen to anyone

regardless of age, gender, or sexual orientation. These problems can emerge from a wide variety of underlying

factors. For example, difficulties in communicating with each other, issues with trust, having a history of trauma or

conflict in our past, having different goals or values. These problems can lead to arguments, isolation and

withdrawal, being unfaithful, or being distant emotionally.

Relationship issues are not exclusive to a long term or newly formed relationship they can also be present in our friendships and with our work colleagues. Some individuals may have a predisposition towards difficult relationships due to their past experiences including the attachment style with their early caregivers, usually their mother. When our very early childhood needs are not met, for example, feeling loved and wanted, and safe and secure, relationship problems can emerge and carry on through adulthood, becoming repeating patterns.

Seeking guidance and learning how to engage in a meaningful relationship through examining our past relationship history can be immensely beneficial. Seeing a trained professional such as a clinical psychologist can help in identifying the underlying issues that contribute towards relationship issues and how to make positive change. Therapy may include working on developing effective communication, learning skills to resolve conflict, working through past trauma and unresolved issues.

Through the support and guidance of therapy it is possible to make positive change and learn how to develop healthy and fulfilling relationships with others.